I love this. But I also wanted more qualifiers for #3. Some of us have absolutely been more threatened and unsafe the larger our community gets and the risk to ourselves and our loved ones is exponentially more for some of us. I've found a lot of Nice Happy People make judgments and demands of us for being Too Introverted or not a Team player when we are simply upholding safe boundaries and relying on our Hard Won Instincts about people. We will only engage in communities that feel safe for us. If we're not engaging with you, there's a reason. Just a Big Caveat I feel is necessary.
Robin, so very true, frightening, and heartbreaking. Thanks for the reminder. And something well-meaning folks miss this if they are not marginalized. It is much the same for people like me who are disabled. We witnessed the “Lord of the Flies” outcome during COVID when we were not prioritized for vaccines even though we are often immune compromised at all ages making us likely not to survive it. We are still considered an accepted casualty. Trump has openly stated to his nephew with a severely disabled son (Trump’s own great-nephew) that “all those people should just die.” It doesn’t matter how innocuously we put the question, “Are you wheelchair accessible” whether it’s a shelter, or a biz…we are often met with defensiveness. We live it every day, the complete lack of acknowledgement that there is even a problem, let alone solutions with teeth as we try to work, get healthcare, and raise families while supporting others also in danger like yourself.
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Thank you for this, Stephanie! 💓 How did you know I needed help with Hope today 😓
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I love this. But I also wanted more qualifiers for #3. Some of us have absolutely been more threatened and unsafe the larger our community gets and the risk to ourselves and our loved ones is exponentially more for some of us. I've found a lot of Nice Happy People make judgments and demands of us for being Too Introverted or not a Team player when we are simply upholding safe boundaries and relying on our Hard Won Instincts about people. We will only engage in communities that feel safe for us. If we're not engaging with you, there's a reason. Just a Big Caveat I feel is necessary.
Robin, so very true, frightening, and heartbreaking. Thanks for the reminder. And something well-meaning folks miss this if they are not marginalized. It is much the same for people like me who are disabled. We witnessed the “Lord of the Flies” outcome during COVID when we were not prioritized for vaccines even though we are often immune compromised at all ages making us likely not to survive it. We are still considered an accepted casualty. Trump has openly stated to his nephew with a severely disabled son (Trump’s own great-nephew) that “all those people should just die.” It doesn’t matter how innocuously we put the question, “Are you wheelchair accessible” whether it’s a shelter, or a biz…we are often met with defensiveness. We live it every day, the complete lack of acknowledgement that there is even a problem, let alone solutions with teeth as we try to work, get healthcare, and raise families while supporting others also in danger like yourself.
Love this Stephanie thank you for the insights ✨